Man Says He Won’t go to Funeral of Ex-Mother-in-Law, Here’s Why ArticlePure

A man who was married for more than three decades says he won’t be attending the funeral of his former mother-of-law — because she once tried to bribe his wife into divorcing him.

In an anonymous post shared to Reddit, the man writes: “Long story short, I was married for 34 years and during that time, my ex in-laws continually offered to buy my then wife a house if she would divorce me.”

“We came from very different socioeconomic backgrounds, and my lack of a pedigree and formal university education were a great embarrassment to them,” he continues in the post.

And while he tried to take the comments in stride, eventually they impacted the marriage.

“I used to play it off and joke about it, mainly as a means of coping. Eventually our marriage ended in divorce.”

What’s worse, he adds, is that his wife did eventually take the house that was offered.

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“The pressure finally got to my ex and she took the carrot,” he writes.

Now, his former mother-in-law has died and the couple’s children want him to attend the funeral — but he isn’t interested. “Her mother died three days ago and my kids are pressuring me to go to the funeral,” he says.

Other Reddit users are weighing in on the situation, with many arguing that the man should attend the funeral, if only to support his children.

“Honestly though, his ex-wife just lost her mother. She’s probably too busy dealing with her own grief to be as present for their children as she would need to be,” wrote one commenter. “That’s usually why you want the other parent there to support the kids. It’s hard enough processing your own grief while you are trying to support your children too.”

But another said the man should “celebrate” instead of going to the funeral, writing, “What you can and should do? Go celebrate. Seriously. Get a friend or two and go to a restaurant and treat yourself to a good steak and overpriced beer, or go splurge a bit on something that you want to do and normally wouldn’t. Go party a bit.”